Are you nervous about accepting an adoption match? Are you worried that the situation doesn’t exactly fit your criteria? Whether you are waiting to be chosen by a birth mother or trying to decide if a particular match is right for your family, remember that God will lead you down the path he wants you to travel. He will never give you more than He knows you can handle!
When a birth mother contacts you, she has already seen and liked your profile. There is something about your family that tugs on her heart. She will know what you do for a living, the names of your pets, and a little about your background. Lifetime will advise you on the birth mother’s circumstances. Together, you need to build a relationship and decide if this is the right decision for both parties.
Your birth mom might contact more than one family, before she makes her choice. On the other hand, if you decide to turn down an adoptive placement, it could be months or even years before you are chosen again. Let your adoption professional counsel you and answer any questions that come up. There is always an element of unknown in every adoption. At some point, God will prepare you for whatever surprises present themselves.
Pray on your decision and walk through any ungrounded fears. God instructs us to “not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself.” (Matthew 6:34). There are no guarantees in life. At some point, you must trust that God has made a match for you in heaven and He will equip you to be a wonderful parent to that child.
Don’t be dissuaded by fear of the unknown! We have a lamp to guide our steps, not a big searchlight! The rewards you will experience, by raising and loving a child, are worth every tentative moment. We believe though we cannot see Him. We must trust in His word and in His divine role playing out in our lives. Remember, God is the ultimate matchmaker!